Love and Hate

Stan Wendy
“Will you be mi… *BLECH* Ewwwww!”

I admit that the older I get, the less interested I am in Valentine’s Day. Oh wait.. before I forget and become lost in my thoughts…

Happy Valentine’s Day

Ok, where was I? oh yeah..

Back in my 20’s and even my late 30’s, I got into Valentine’s Day. Those I loved got something clever, special, home made or a nice surprise. It was cool and felt good. Today, it’s not a day I look forward to. It’s not that I’m not loving anymore, but the novelty of the day has worn off. Almost too commercial if you ask me.

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Maybe it’s that we are faced with trying to do something we would normally not do for one day a year that has me burnt out on the day. Candy, cards, flowers, dinner… it’s all a build up that leads to higher expectations the other 365 days (remember, this is a leap year and leap month). And once you set the bar too high, it only means you fail when you don’t reach it on a consistent level.

So this year, it’s just a card for my wife. Because what I write inside, I mean and it’s something I can do often without looking up and trying to reach that high point I never set for myself.

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  1. Sarah says:

    I’m not much into Valentines day either. I mean yeah it’s nice to get flowers but honestly, I get surprised with flowers a lot (when I compare with my friends anyway). So really Vahid and I are just used Valentines as an excuse to go on a date (this Saturday since he’s working and I’m in school all week). Again, that’s nothing outstanding, we try to go at least every month/every other during school.

    I think it’s silly to be all, “OMG I NEED TO BUY YOU THIS SO YOU’LL LOVE ME.” I would be just as happy with flowers or when a simple “I love you.” Because it all says the same to me.

    1. martymankins says:

      Nice to know that others see the simple side of showing one’s love for each other.

  2. Sybil Law says:

    I just can’t stand the cheese and expectation. We spent the evening together as a family. I cooked fettuccine alfredo, Gilda and I made a cake, and we just hung out. That’s definitely enough for me. I buy my own flowers year round (I like having them, in the house, and roses are NOT my favorite flowers, but that’s all my husband knows how to buy, apparently), and telling each other we love each other is daily here.

    1. martymankins says:

      The I love you is a daily thing for my wife and I, too. It’s nice to hear it often instead of on special occasions. The de facto standard rose buying is something I never got into. I used to be creative when I bought flowers for those I dated/married.

  3. I really think people should be good to each other every day. Valentines day isn’t my thing, but I do love when someone does something thoughtful, any day of the year.

    1. martymankins says:

      Yes, exactly. It’s not once a year that we have to rush around and try to make it perfect. Just an every day thing.

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